If it needs to be done, do it. If you see it, take care of it. Be the person that fixes the problem, not the person who orders someone else to fix the problem.
For example, don’t look in the fridge at something spoiled and passively aggressively say, ‘Are you trying to grow a fungus farm? I’m just asking!’
That’s a good way to piss off your spouse and get a divorce. If you see a problem, fix the problem. Watch your marriage thrive.